The Seventh: On Like and Love
“I am very interested and fascinated how everyone loves each other, but no one really likes each other.”
There are plenty of meaningful quotes in the perks of being a wallflower, but somehow, this was the one that really hit home for me.
I’ve been seeing people lie, tell false things, agree with the things they don’t really agree with just so they can get people to like them.
This particular quote comes from where Charlie talks about his family, and he says how everyone seems to love each other but no one really likes each other.
Personally, I think everyone is guilty of loving without liking. For example, we learn to love our parents much before we decide if we like them or not. But that’s okay; we grow to like them over time.
Family, they say is a child’s first school. If the family members themselves practice lying and hypocrisy, then the child learns and believes that lying and hypocrisy is an acceptable way of life.
When I first entered the world of dating, I was pretty shocked to see that Indian dating was way, way different from the dating I’d read about in books. Here there are three steps to get a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
Step One: Find a girl or boy near you.
Step Two: Do you know him/her? It’s okay if you don’t.
Step Three: Ask her/him if they’d like to be your boyfriend or girlfriend.
There, that’s pretty much it. No dates or getting to know each other before committing. It doesn’t matter that neither party knows each other, it doesn’t matter that you don’t really like each other. Before you hang up the phone after a session of ‘you hang up, no you,’ the ‘I love you’ is bound to come out. No, this did not happen to me.
There is an enormous need to get people to like each other, after that love will follow. Now, only if the presidents of the many countries read this and decided to like each other for a change instead of proclaiming their love for others’ countries then maybe we’d be on the way to development and progress.
So, today, with this extremely short blog post, I leave you with: Learn to Like, and then Love.
Until next time,
P.S: I’ve just started the book A Thousand Splendid Suns. So far, it had been really invigorating.